The Bangkok lesbian scene is still developing with new events, restaurants and bars appearing – and closing – all the time.
Increasing numbers of lesbian couples visit Bangkok for holidays or to experience the red light areas.
There’s also a strong Bangkok lesbian expat community that use the bars, nightclubs and restaurants.
Plus, Bangkok is one of the most sexually accepting countries in the world so for many lesbians it’s a very comfortable and open place to be for any LGBT people.
It’s not uncommon to see lesbians together taking in the atmosphere at one of the Bangkok red light districts or visiting a massage parlour. Most bar girls and dancers have had offers from female tourists.
Young Thai females – professionals and students – are becoming more open about same-sex relationships. These girls are known as Tom Boys in the non-PC Thai society. Many lesbian couples now feel more comfortable to be open.
The Thai Tourism Authority (TAT) also launched a promotional campaign encourage lesbian, gay, and bisexual visitors to visit Thailand.
So where to go to experience the best of the Bangkok lesbian scene?
Lesbian Restaurants and Cafes
These are the best places to meet with girls in a relaxed setting without the noise and alcohol. The food is also pretty good and they are popular in the city’s lesbian community. They’re ideal venues for meeting new friends.
Vega Cafe Sukhumvit Soi 39
Vega Caf is a bar and restaurant owned by a group of lesbians.
Zup Zip 674 Soi 101, Lad Prao Road
This is a nice little restaurant popular with the Bangkok lesbian community. Food is Thai and Chinese.
Eat Me Soi Pipat 2 (off Soi Convent)
A gay male resrauant but still very friendly with lesbians
The Lobby Soi Aree (Paholyothin Soi 7)
Lesbian owned restaurant and bar on soi aree.
Bars and Nightclubs
There are very few lesbian bars in Bangkok compared with the male equivalent. A few lesbian bars have closed over the years, so the critical mass needed to make money is clearly lacking. However, there are a few special lesbian nights at established nightclubs and male gay bars are lesbian-friendly, too.
Lesla Embassy Pub, Ratchada Soi 4
A monthly lesbian party night at a popular club. Caters primarilry for Thai lesbians and tom boys but westerners and foreigners are welcomed. More on Lesla
Go Grrrls Wine Bibber Sangria, Ekkamai Soi 2
A monthly nightclub party for lesbians and gay men at More info
Khao San Road
This area is popular with young travelers and backpackers. Furthermore, it gets its fair share of lesbians. If you want to hook up with like-minded western lesbians this is the place to go.
Gay bars See our list of male gay bars. It includes The Balcony, Telephone and DJ Station. Lesbians visit these venues and feel very comfortable here.
Hold your breath – we’re going to take a swerve into Bangkok’s lesbian sex tourism scene. And why not? Women deserve to be enjoy it as well as men.
Massage is the best way for bisexual, or bi-curious, women to experience girl-on-girl intimacy for the first time in complete privacy. This is invaluable for girls who are still in the closet.
Many places will have one or two bisexual or Tom boy girls that will happily accept female bisexual or lesbian customers.
The question is whether to use one of the big neon lit soapy sex massage parlours or one of the traditional Thai massage shops.
Massage parlours: The large neon places are more accustomed to lesbian requests, but they can be quite robotic – shower and straight into the action. The girls are often young and inexperienced. However, Sukhumvit Soi 33 is good for this many lesbians have had satisfying experiences there. Prices will begin at 1,000 baht per hour.
Thai massage shops: For girls that want a more spontaneous, unexpected and ‘natural’ experience, the traditional style massage shops are best. The code word for sexual services is to request an ‘oil massage’. Ask for this and they should get the hint.
Most masseuses begin flirting with men and ask them if they want special massage, or words to that effect. They will be shy with women, so be more proactive. Move hips, touch the massage girl’s leg and see if they move away. It’ll soon become clear whether she’s willing to give a girl a happy ending. But it all depends on the individual chemistry.
Sukhumvit Soi 22 is a very central location and has many small massage shops. Again, several lesbians have anecdotal reports of happy times here. Prices for a basic oil massage are 300 baht with another 500 baht tip in the room for the girl to perform.
Lesbian Friendly Gogo Bars
Lesbian couples holidaying in Bangkok visit the gogo bars to watch, pick up girls or ladyboys. They are a great tourist attraction. Furthermore, men with a bi girlfriend often pick up Thai girls for the night from gogo bars. Single lesbians may want to take a friend if they’re afraid of entering a gogo bar alone. Many gogo bars also have lesbian shows which are great to watch.
These five gogo bars have been fully verified by Bangkok XL as being lesbian friendly. Some girls will be bar-fined by women and go home with them.
Suzie Wong Soi Cowboy
Nightly shows at Suzie Wong gogo bar start from 10pm and include lots of lesbian action. It’s real kissing, licking and not simulated.
Spanky’s Agogo Nana Plaza
Spankys is found in the Nana Plaza. They have lesbian shows, but these aren’t ever scheduled. Female lesbian visitors are welcomed and can bar fine the dancers.
Billboard Nana Plaza
Another club in the Nana Plaza that puts on the occasional lesbian show. Shows can be done on request in exchange for tips to the girls. Speak with the mama sang. Some dancers will go with other lesbians or bisexual girls.
Angelwitch Nana Plaza
A popular strip club with great live shows, exotic dancing, costumes and rock music all night long. The girls here are fun and relaxed. Lesbians are welcome.
66 Club Patpong
This nighclub is found in the Patpong red light area. It’s home to the famous ping pong shows and live sex shows. 66 Club is one of the places that includes a live lesbian show
Lesbian-welcoming Escort Agencies
Cut through the embarrassment, ordering drinks, making small talk and whatever else. Just use an escort agency to order a girl to your room. The most common service is lesbian duo escorts featuring bisexual girls for men who want to fulfill their threesome fantasies. However, several agencies offer girls for females lesbians, lesbian couples or straight couples with a bi woman. (So many variations!)
Prices for out call escorts start at around 5,000 baht for two hours up to 12,000 baht for 24 hours service. It’s more expensive than visiting a gogo bar, or a massage parlour, but agencies are a premium service – hence the higher cost.
VIP Model Massage +66(0)898906424
Offers a range of different nationality girls with special lesbian duo services or girls for female customers
New Bangkok Escort +66 (0)827778266
A more modern agency with a big selection of bisexual girls who take bookings from single females and lesbian couples
Pure Bangkok Escorts +66 (0)842191077
Lots of Thai girls available, with good rates. The agency is also accommodating to lesbian and bisexual women.
True Bangkok Escorts +66(0)815531729
Many different girls to choose from but with a focus on lesbian duos for men in Bangkok rather than lesbians.
Bangkok Gold Escorts +66(0)81246-9041
This agency boasts of genuinely bisexual girls who will make each cum orally. Open to female customers.
Bangkok Lesbian dating
The Bangkok lesbian scene is quite active in the dating niche. There are many Thai girls, as well as western expats, that use these services to meet other girls.
Tinder: The world’s most popular casual hookup app has boomed in Thailand. Many Thai girls, as well as lesbian expats, use the service for linking up with other girls. Sure, there are not nearly as many Bangkok lesbians on there as guys. But there’s a healthy pool from which to browse.
Thai Friendly: This is Thailand’s biggest dating website. They also have an option for females seeking females. This includes plenty of native Thai lesbians. Some of them may want paying. Ensure the arrangement is clear.